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Friends are more important for him or I demand too much attention?
- Female gender
- Messages: 17
- Registration: 24.04.2010
- Location: Moscow
I meet with a guy for almost 5 months, of course a small time, but still. Study, work, we live far from each other – due to many circumstances it has been seen recently. But I try to spend every free minute with him. I knocked out of my balance the situation that occurred this week: on Monday I transferred my affairs to spend the extra hour with it;On Tuesday, I ran away from a meeting with my best friend to meet my beloved;On Thursday, I again found time after work. And now what happened: we walked wonderful, I was going home already, he spent before the train. I asked me to stay with him a little more, I stayed. Suddenly a phone call is heard, he replies to the phone: "After 15 minutes I will be, wait". Then he says to me:"Sorry, I need to meet a best friend, don’t be offended". And so he throws me (it cannot be called otherwise) and runs away to meet a better friend to discuss the coming weekend. As a result, I spend this weekend alone, and he has fun with friends
. Then he sent me a message: do not be offended by me.I just can’t spend as much time with you now and stupidly score for friends whom I know from the sandbox either.
I’m at a loss, the last two days in my head is a confusion. I love him, so it hurts. I am not against his friends, but the fact that he threw me so easily and ran away to a friend leads to different thoughts. 🙁
I don’t know how to be now, how to behave. If someone had something like that, tell me.
- Female gender
- Messages: 17
- Registration: 24.04.2010
- Location: Moscow
Yesterday I recklessly deleted this topic, deciding that she wrote in vain. But in the mail I received a notification about the comment:
User’s answer Login:
I had a similar situation. Nothing good of these relations did not work out!He just doesn’t value you!
My advice to you, if you can’t = do not want to part with this MCH, then try it as it is like he does!You need to respect yourself and to respect you and you.And I hope everything will become clear to you whether he values your relationship or not!
And if not, then do not be wasted, he is not worth you!
Good luck to you.
I want to say thanks for the advice!
I will do so.
- Female gender
- Messages: 130
- Registration: 24.01.2010
I agree with Login completely, I also had a similar situation. 5 months normal time. It is necessary to show him the same relative, further according to the reaction, if you are dear to him, then he takes something to be with you if not. he is worse. Good luck to you 😉
- Female gender
- Messages: 5055
- Registration: 17.01.2010
Nezavisimaya.Try to do the way you were advised above.
But you described the situation terrible.I don’t know him, but actually loving and educated guys do not do this.
Example from my life: met with a guy 4 months 2 times a week (studied at universities located at different ends of a large city).
On one of the dates, he urgently needed to leave for 30 minutes and then continue the meeting .
I already, a little sad, tuned in to a 30-minute expectation alone, when his friend comes up to us and stays with me until my martyr was returned.
Take a closer look at him, as if from the side, maybe he loves you not as much as you or as you would like.
Or maybe just does not know the ethics of behavior.
- Female gender
- Messages: 17
- Registration: 24.04.2010
- Location: Moscow
Thanks to everyone that they responded to my problem. I have not yet have enough life experience and I first encountered this situation for the first time. At that moment, when he left me so easily and went to a friend, I honestly almost burst into tears. I don’t know how to behave with him now, something seemed to have turned over in me, changed in relation to him, I moved away from him, now all the words he said is perceived with distrust.
- Female gender
- Messages: 15755
- Registration: 24.10.2009
- Where: Lipetsk
- Female gender
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- Registration: 24.10.2009
- Where: Lipetsk
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- Female gender
- Messages: 17
- Registration: 24.04.2010
- Location: Moscow
I understand everything, but if I stop sacrificing something for the sake of being seen with him, our couple thinks for a long time.
Although, if he values this relationship, a miracle may happen and he himself will show more initiative and appreciate every minute spent together. But what if this does not happen?I don’t want to lose it now, although on the other hand such a relationship is also not needed either.